I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing. – John 15:5
I definitely have a tendency to try to do things on my own. Although when I do it is strained and short-lived. We cannot live, we cannot heal people, we cannot be the best at our job, we cannot be great friends, we cannot break away from habits, and we cannot have healthy relationships. We need to be in Him. To create healthy habits it takes work but not always the kind of work that springs to my mind. It is more internal work and being with Him. Its about setting our focus on Him and being in communion with Him. Even “simple” things are God dependent. Things that seem easy still cannot be done without Him. He is our life and source. Just trying harder and trying to do it by yourself is not the solution. No self-help is going to leave you were God wants. He wants you to be in Him in everything that you do. We are dependent on Him.
Thankfully when we are in Him we can do everything and are surrounded by love, support and encouragement. Without Him I cannot do anything, but with Him nothing is too much. Nothing will get in His way of His power. He does not see the constraints that we see. When all we see is Him, our focus is Him we will be doing impossible things in Him. He loves you!